You aren't overwhelmed, exhausted, or at your wits' end after trying (and failing) to get your son to cooperate and go with the flow.
End the defiance, calm the meltdowns, and raise a compassionate, respectful boy
INTRODUCING...
Encircle: Foundations
For Raising a Calm, Confident, Cooperative Boy
End the defiance, calm the meltdowns, and raise a compassionate, respectful boy
INTRODUCING...
Encircle: Foundations
For Raising a Calm, Confident, Cooperative Boy
More cooperation and respect with less nagging, aggression, power struggles and meltdowns...
More patience and calm - for you and him - without yelling and punishments (which always seem to backfire anyway)...
Less aggression and more connection…
Yes. I Promise. It's Possible.
Envision a world where...
You ask him to do something and he just does it.
You stay emotionally grounded when he has a tough moment, and as a result, you're his safe haven when he has a problem.
You trust that you’re giving your son the solid foundation he needs to thrive in school, at home, and with friends.
What would that mean for you, for him, for your family?
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Join the revolution of moms of strong-willed boys transcending the chaos & battles to raise cooperative, respectful, kind, and compassionate sons!
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When my two older boys were young, I hated being a mom.
No amount of consequences and rewards, parenting books, or mom-friend vent sessions made any difference in their behavior. I found myself praying for the point that they’d “grow out of this phase” but that day never came.
No amount of consequences and rewards, parenting books, or mom-friend vent sessions made any difference in their behavior. I found myself praying for the point that they’d “grow out of this phase” but that day never came.
Until one day I realized it wasn’t a phase. That my sons are who they are, strong- will and all.
If I were going to survive their adolescence, I needed to find another way. So I committed myself to understanding who they were at their core; what hidden messages were behind the behavior, and how I could meet them right where they were with compassion and understanding…
Then everything began to change. In fact, being a mom became so much more fulfilling that I decided to have another baby and become a parent coach!
Today, my sons are 16, 14, and 10 and they are incredible, pro-social, helpful kids who help out around the house without being asked, who come to me when things get hard, and who take responsibility in life.
But more importantly - I’ve now helped hundreds of moms transform their strong-willed son’s behavioral challenges while increasing cooperation, creating breakthroughs at home and at school, and setting their sons up to thrive.
If I were going to survive their adolescence, I needed to find another way. So I committed myself to understanding who they were at their core; what hidden messages were behind the behavior, and how I could meet them right where they were with compassion and understanding…
Then everything began to change. In fact, being a mom became so much more fulfilling that I decided to have another baby and become a parent coach!
Today, my sons are 16, 14, and 10 and they are incredible, pro-social, helpful kids who help out around the house without being asked, who come to me when things get hard, and who take responsibility in life.
But more importantly - I’ve now helped hundreds of moms transform their strong-willed son’s behavioral challenges while increasing cooperation, creating breakthroughs at home and at school, and setting their sons up to thrive.
What is Encircle: Foundations?
Encircle Foundations will help you crack the code on your strong-willed son.
You’ll learn what his behavior is trying to communicate to you, and how to meet his unmet needs to transform behavior and cooperation.
Through this work, you will become the sturdy parent he needs to thrive, while teaching him how to handle life's ups and downs with more calm.
The content in this program is backed by years of research, personal experience, and thousands of hours coaching families with strong-willed children.
Understand what makes boys tick, what motivates them, and what causes them to become explosive or combative so you can proactively stop the behavior.
Learn what a boy needs given that his brain works differently from yours. Learn to nurture your relationship and advocate for him while considering those differences.
Teach your easily frustrated son the skills he needs to deal with challenges - and how to manage your own frustration while doing it.
Learn all the facets of your son’s temperament so that you can plan ahead, meet him with compassion, and meet his needs more easily.
Help your son navigate his often-overwhelming world with more ease and less struggle without getting caught up in conflict.
Learn to minimize conflict and ensure your son has the support he needs to thrive from both of his parents, no matter what your dynamic is.
What We Don't Do...
Expect Perfection
You don’t have to become someone you are not or say the “right thing at the right time.” Instead, we focus on building a relationship where you can mess up without launching a downward spiral.
Try To Dampen Your Son's Spark
Despite his behavior at times, your son is amazing at the core, and we want to keep it that way. The more he feels loved and accepted in all his messiness, the less he’ll act out in attempts to get his needs met, meaning less meltdowns, power struggles, and aggression.
Judge or Shame (You or Your Son)
Parenting is hard, and you're doing the best you can under a very hard set of circumstances. Let us teach you why some of your methods are backfiring and give you practical tools, strategies, and support to do things differently moving forward...without shame or blame.
Hi! I'm Rachel Sklar...
I’ll be honest: a lot of the parenting advice out there, while well intended, can be harmful and toxic when applied to strong-willed kids.
Our boys (and girls!) are wired differently, and when they feel like we’re trying to control them, they don’t back down~ they push harder, which is why traditional parenting methods backfire for us. They want control and they're wired to fight for it!
But here’s what you need to know: your son doesn’t enjoy living this way any more than you do. All he really wants is to be understood, but he doesn’t have the skills, the language, or the competence to do things differently. And quite frankly, you may not either. And if you do, you may not know how to interpret what he’s trying to tell you.
Our boys (and girls!) are wired differently, and when they feel like we’re trying to control them, they don’t back down~ they push harder, which is why traditional parenting methods backfire for us. They want control and they're wired to fight for it!
But here’s what you need to know: your son doesn’t enjoy living this way any more than you do. All he really wants is to be understood, but he doesn’t have the skills, the language, or the competence to do things differently. And quite frankly, you may not either. And if you do, you may not know how to interpret what he’s trying to tell you.
That's why parents seek out teachers, therapists, specialists, and anyone else who can define the problem with a diagnosis, work with the child, or suggest a solution. But after all that time, money and energy poured into finding answers, many parents find that the behavioral challenges still persist.
Because at the end of the day, the biggest transformer of child behavior isn’t medication or an IEP or 504 plan; it isn’t therapy or sleep away camp. While all these things help, they’re not the end-all-be-all.
In fact, they should be secondary when trying to transform behavior.
The primary differentiator comes down to the parent-child relationship.
When he has a solid foundation with his mom and he can enter the front door knowing he's in a safe haven, where he can be himself, fall apart and bounce back, and where patience, compassion, and respect are modeled… this is where he becomes confident, respectful, and cooperative on his own accord.
When you have the knowledge and wisdom to be the parent your child needs, everything changes.
I did this with my 3 boys and I’ve helped 100s of parents over 1000s of hours of coaching and supporting them to create life changing results…
And now I can help you too.
Here’s Why It’s Felt So Hard...
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Traditional parenting strategies backfire with strong-willed kids who see through consequences (like taking away screens) and offering rewards (like promising more screens!). They sense that you’re trying to control their behavior and that makes them resist you in other areas even more.
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Despite reading books and blogs, listening to podcasts, and doing your best to have more patience, you still find yourself yelling or giving in because you’re overwhelmed and tired of the fight.
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Working with a therapist or maybe even other parenting coaches hasn’t had the impact you need because they’re focused on cookie cutter parenting solutions that don’t take your son’s unique personality and temperament into consideration.
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You’ve hoped it’s just a phase and eventually your son will grow out of it, but the truth is, despite the years passing, his strong will is only getting stronger.
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You often feel guilty or embarrassed by your sons behavior around teachers or other parents because you feel out of control with your son’s behavior.
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Your parents, relatives, and maybe even your spouse or parenting partner keep saying he needs a more authoritative approach but that only makes things worse.
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You’re wondering if he needs a diagnosis (or a new one) which will hopefully make things a little easier, because at least then you’d know.
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You’ve felt alone and helpless, constantly looking for answers or some sort of solution but nothing seems to make any drastic or long term changes, until now...
We focus less on scripts and more on getting into your son’s world and meeting him there to build trust, respect and cooperation.
Once we understand what’s motivating his actions, then we can use “scripts” that invite connection and open dialogue.
We don’t rely on consequences or rewards. You’ll build such a solid connection with him that his connection with you will move him into action.
Because your energy matters, we teach you how to slow your reactions and become responsive so you can be the calm and sturdy parent he needs in tough moments.
You’ll learn to cultivate more patience with yourself and your son so you can navigate the ups and downs with more compassion.
When you do (inevitably) mess up, you’ll be able to use it as a way to connect on an even deeper level with your son.
What You Get Inside
Encircle: Foundations
Navigating Boyhood
Learn the secrets to raising a cooperative, compassionate son who wants to stay close to you for life. You'll discover new insights into the inner workings of your son's brain and gain practical tools to fulfill his basic needs, boost his confidence and improve his behavior at home, school, and beyond.
Skill Building For Easily Frustrated Kids
Create a massive mindset shift in the way you perceive and handle your son's explosive behaviors, and learn how to solve recurring problems while meeting your needs and his.
How to Solve Recurring Problems While YOU Feel Frustrated
Learn a 3-pronged approach to solving problems in a way that cultivates empathy, trust, respect, problem solving skills, and teaches the value of win-win solutions.
Understanding Temperament
Learn about your and your child's temperament traits as you identify various energy levels, adaptability, sensitivity, and more. By using an online temperament sorter, parents can gain insights into their family dynamics, child's strengths and interests, and strategies for coping with new situations.
I’m Talking, They’re STILL Not Listening
Understand the role of development, generally why kids ignore us, and specifically why your son is ignoring you, and learn basic models of communication breakdowns with solutions to help your son listen the first time!
The Mother-Son Relationship
Discover the essential things that boys need from their moms and the unique characteristics of the boy brain. Explore the research on coercive parenting for boys while learning to eliminate harsh criticism and emotional over-involvement. Review the evidence-based practices that can help establish a deep mother-son bond.
Parenting With Mindfulness
Regain your patience, calmness, and mindfulness during any parenting challenge, so you don't have to succumb to fear, grief, or mom guilt.
Setting Limits With Love
Learn the difference between rules and boundaries and why your son often doesn’t respect your boundaries. Discover how to set limits in a way that honors your relationship with your son.
Boy Mom Breakthrough
Create a massive mindset shift in the way you approach your parenting, to move out of overwhelm, mom guilt, and self-judgement and into peace, calm, and acceptance.
Parenting As a Team
How to work together as a team with your parenting partner to minimize conflict and ensure your son has the support he needs to thrive.
What Else You Get:
Personal Help via Private Coaching Call With Rachel
Every family is different and your son is unique - so it matters how you apply what you’re learning.
After going through a good portion of the trainings, you can unlock a call with Rachel to get a plan specifically tailored to your situation to create the long lasting breakthroughs you desire. And you can ask to record it so you can go back and re-listen anytime you want.
After going through a good portion of the trainings, you can unlock a call with Rachel to get a plan specifically tailored to your situation to create the long lasting breakthroughs you desire. And you can ask to record it so you can go back and re-listen anytime you want.
Support & Feedback in our Private Facebook Group
Parenting a strong-willed boy can feel isolating sometimes - but it doesn’t have to be! Get the support, perspective, and community you need every day in our clients-only Facebook Group.
When you join Encircle Foundations, you’ll join a community of likeminded parents who are dedicated to being the best parents they can be. You can ask questions, celebrate parenting wins, share challenges, and get insights from Rachel, our ambassador team, and other parents.
When you join Encircle Foundations, you’ll join a community of likeminded parents who are dedicated to being the best parents they can be. You can ask questions, celebrate parenting wins, share challenges, and get insights from Rachel, our ambassador team, and other parents.
Additional Bonuses
Rock Your Inner Mama
A guide to mindful parenting that includes 8 meditations that will help you step into your most empowered, confident, and mindful version of self and mama
($97 Value)
Sibling Rivalry to Sibling Revelry
How to handle sibling rivalry and cut down on the fighting and bickering so you can have the peaceful household you all deserve ($197 Value)
Chaos to Tranquility: The Toddler Years
Start strong on the path of connected parenting in the toddler years ($197 Value)
The Boy Mom Method 5-Day Course
Learn the 3 principles of The Boy Mom Method taught in a simple 5-day challenge format ($47 Value)
So what's this all worth?
Encircle: Foundations Lessons: $1,297
Private Coaching Call: $350
Bonuses: $538
Total Value: $2,185
But that’s not what you’ll pay…
Fast Action Pay-In-Full
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Value
Your Investment
$997
Includes:
- Encircle Foundations Parenting Course
- Private Coaching Call
- 4 Course Bonuses
- Access to the Clients-Only Facebook Group
- Lifetime Course Access
Fast Action Monthly Payments
Three Monthly Payments
Value
Your Investment
$345 (3 payments)
Includes:
- Encircle Foundations Parenting Course
- Private Coaching Call
- 4 Course Bonuses
- Access to the Clients-Only Facebook Group
- Lifetime Course Access
What a few of our students have to say about our trainings:
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does it take to see a change in behavior?
Most parents report an immediate shift. But in order to see a sustainable shift, it requires that the parents hone their skills and customize their approach for their individual child, which is why this course is extensive and includes a private call with Rachel to tailor the method to you and your child.
What if my partner and I aren’t on the same page or they’re too strict?
No problem! I don’t believe parents have to be on the same page in all cases. A lot of parents come to me with very different parenting styles and often, I introduce a 3rd approach for them to consider and experiment with. We also explore how your family can work even with parents who have two different approaches.
All of this said, there is a training inside the program called “Parenting as a Team” and this will help you, at the very least, remove tension from the conversation and help you find a path forward together.
All of this said, there is a training inside the program called “Parenting as a Team” and this will help you, at the very least, remove tension from the conversation and help you find a path forward together.
What if it doesn’t work?
I'm confident that if you implement what you learn in this program, you will experience a tremendous shift in your home. If you don't, it may be because your child needs his own intervention or therapy as well. I always say, "Start with the parenting."
If that doesn't work, I can help you figure out next steps to getting the right types of support or evaluation for your child.
If that doesn't work, I can help you figure out next steps to getting the right types of support or evaluation for your child.
How long is the course?
The course is self-paced. You can go through it as quickly or as slowly as you want. It’s entirely up to you and your schedule. You get lifetime access to the course materials and can unlock your call with Rachel as soon as you understand the basics, so there’s no rush.
The only thing that is time bound is access to the Facebook Group. You’ll get 3 months of access to the group and the support available there once you join the program. You’ll have the option to extend your time there if you choose to for a small monthly fee.
The only thing that is time bound is access to the Facebook Group. You’ll get 3 months of access to the group and the support available there once you join the program. You’ll have the option to extend your time there if you choose to for a small monthly fee.
I’ve worked with a parent coach before. How is this different?
Strong-willed boys are a force, and they are my specialty. Because I have 3 boys of my own, and have spent 1000s of hours coaching parents, I’ve developed a unique approach to parenting that combines an extensive background in child development, neuroscience, clinical psychology, personal development and mindfulness to demystify parenting a strong willed child.
Is this course good for dads or parents of girls?
YES! While a small portion of the content is mother-son specific, the theory and strategies are applicable to both mom and dad, sons and daughters. I’ve worked with all kinds of families, so what you’re learning is applicable to any family dynamic. The Facebook Group and private coaching call will be a great way to get specific guidance for your family, whether you’re a mother or father of a girl or boy.
What’s the difference between this and Encircle: For Moms of Boys, your group coaching program?
This program is based on the live Encircle program content, but created as a lower cost option with pre-recorded lessons.
Encircle Group Coaching includes over 24 live coaching sessions with Rachel , whereas this program gives you one private session. The live program is comprehensive, in depth, and starts at $2,400. If you want to learn more, click here.
This program, Encircle: Foundations teaches you the foundations of transforming your parent-child relationship in a self-paced program, but at a much lower investment. We’re sharing the most impactful training from the group program so any parent can create the shifts and breakthroughs they desire in their parenting journey.
Encircle Group Coaching includes over 24 live coaching sessions with Rachel , whereas this program gives you one private session. The live program is comprehensive, in depth, and starts at $2,400. If you want to learn more, click here.
This program, Encircle: Foundations teaches you the foundations of transforming your parent-child relationship in a self-paced program, but at a much lower investment. We’re sharing the most impactful training from the group program so any parent can create the shifts and breakthroughs they desire in their parenting journey.
What age is this program best for?
This program is designed for parents of kids ages 4 to 14. The reason for this is developmentally appropriateness. That said, if your child is younger, GREAT! You get the Chaos to Tranquility toddler program as a bonus so you can start there. If your child is older, also GREAT! We believe it's never too early or late to practice these techniques and make a difference in your relationship with your child. During your private session, Rachel will tailor the coaching to your individual child.
What if I'm too busy right now?
I believe the best time to start making changes with your child is now, but I know life is busy and it’s important that you put the time into learning and applying the concepts of the program. However, you do get lifetime access to the course materials, so taking action now rather than later allows you to lock in the fast-action pricing instead of waiting and paying more when you’re ready. If you don't have time to go through the material but want to unlock your private session early, just let us know.
So... are you ready to transform your parenting journey with Rachel?
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